I’ve come to the realization that, in life, you will never truly please everyone. And this fact definitely holds true when you’re planning your wedding.
Recently I have had a few brides who are playing the delicate balancing act of trying not to hurt someone’s feelings. Whether it be their mom, their future mother in law or their bridesmaids. While I applaud them on this balancing act, I also caution them because giving someone an inch often leads to them taking a mile.
We’ve all been there, right? We are planning a night out with friends. You like sushi, someone doesn’t. A friend wants to go to a wine bar, you to the casual neighborhood watering hole. Another wants to go to the new hot spot in town, while another hates crowds. Ultimately you all end up at a place that is just okay and still there’s someone who isn’t happy.
The reality is, when planning your wedding you’re not going to please everyone. This means, mom, grandma, best friend and so on. Now I’m not saying you throw everything to the wind and don’t care, but what I am saying is that if you listen to everything everyone else says you as the bride (and let’s not forget the groom) are not going to enjoy YOUR day! You need to do what’s right for you, what you feel in your own heart.
I’m also not saying you throw etiquette out the window. Etiquette will always play in role in any wedding. But what I am saying is that if you want a beach wedding and want to wear a ball gown, go for it! If you want to get married at city hall and have your reception in a park pavilion go for it. And if a few people don’t like it, then so be it. After all it’s your wedding and your memories.
Don’t let those who don’t approve take up space in your head.
So go forth, plan away and remember, when you’re planning your wedding you’re creating your own memories, no one else's.
Until next time…